Monday, April 26, 2010
#49 Compliments from Strangers
The other day, I was running through Santa Monica in my usual short shorts (Nike) and some guy yelled out his window, "Nice butt!" Hearing an endorsement like that is one advantage of working out without an iPod. I got home and checked out my ass in the mirror. Lookin' goooood.
We normally don't like to admit this, but single girls can feel a bit insecure of ourselves from time to time without the constant warm fuzzies and attention that our non-single counterparts receive from their significant others. This is why single girls are compliment whores. It's not enough that we try to surround ourselves with people who adore us and flatter us, nothing validates our existence more than compliments from an absolute stranger.
Growing up, some of us were placated with faux praise from our mothers who assured us that we were too pretty AND smart to be dating the silly boys from high school. (I was a fugly teenager and THE ultimate single girl as I never went on a date until college.) Now, we're still skeptical of approval we receive from friends or family members since they're morally obligated to tell us we look "cute" or "nice." ("Nice," but not "amazing"?) Worse, we're especially wary of "compliments" from a frenemy. (Do these jeans really make me look skinny or is the bitch trying to sabotage me again?) And compliments from the dude(s) we're dating? Don't even get me started on what some guys will say to get laid. ("You look like a supermodel." Puh-leeeze.)
How can we measure the integrity of a compliment? This requires some high-level training to obtain the powers of clairvoyance, and we obviously have better things to do with our time - like eyebrow maintenance.
On the other hand, compliments from a stranger (especially a good looking one) are the best kind of affirmation because we know this unsolicited act of admiration is clearly genuine and the universal truth. From the stranger's lips to our ears (and everyone else within auditory range), it is a FACT that we have gorgeous eyes, beautiful hair, et al. After all, why else would this person completely unknown to us with no ulterior motive tell us so?